“Sometimes God allows us to reach a point where we realize we can rely on absolutely nothing—except His love.” – Beth Moore, Whispers of Hope
There is a famous saying, when you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on. Am I the only one who has lived through a season where it seems all you are doing is hanging on? Raising three teenage boys often feels like you are swinging from one rope to the next, hanging on.
The one thing I was never told when I became a parent was that all the experiences you experience while growing up—heartbreaks, fights, hurt feelings, insecurities and disappointments— you go through the same experiences again with each child, except they feel like emotions on steroids. You want to protect, impart wisdom, or love the hurt away but they are their experiences to learn from and live through. You only can pray, share wisdom from the bible, and watch God use that experience to develop character through the consequences of their decisions.
I fight daily the battle of comparison.
The enemy likes to tell me that I am failing as a mother and all the other children are honor roll, perfect, full scholarship, polite young kids. As a Mom you second guess every decision you made while they were growing up, knowing you made some mistakes along the way. You prayed daily that the Lord would raise your kids well despite of you and your husband’s parenting.
Mom says I will look back one day and be proud of who they have become, like she and Dad do now. I believe that, but this in-between stage is scary. When your adult teenagers are making life decisions it is not easy. I want to take the quip “just have faith God is in control” and shove it. I know God is in control, but when you have panic attacks or your imagination runs wild it does not help. It is during that time when you have nothing to rely on except His love that you realize that God never fails you.
When I spoke to a MOPS group several years ago, I told the young mothers more often than not, the trials we experience as mothers was more about God teaching US than it was about training our child. The same goes for teenagers, except they are emotions on steroids.
God is teaching us to trust, while as a mother of teenagers we know the consequences are greater; God is teaching us to hang on to Him when life swirls, when all you want to do is crawl in bed and pull the covers up. God is teaching us that we need to beat down the pride we feel (with His power) when we begin to compare ourselves to other Moms.
When you feel like walking away from everything, including your faith, God reminds you the only thing you absolutely can rely on in this life is His love for you and for your children. “The Spirit of God searches her heart, gathers her pain, and lifts it to the Father of all comfort.” (Beth Moore)