Comments on: Middle-Age Women are Increasing the U.S. Suicide Rate http://www.lorisreflections.com/everyday-things/middle-age-women-are-increasing-the-us-suicide-rate/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=middle-age-women-are-increasing-the-us-suicide-rate The ramblings from a house where testosterone runs rapid. Wed, 01 Feb 2012 17:41:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Anastasia http://www.lorisreflections.com/everyday-things/middle-age-women-are-increasing-the-us-suicide-rate/comment-page-1/#comment-31028 Anastasia Sun, 31 May 2009 04:24:09 +0000 http://laurelwreathsreflections.com/?p=2641#comment-31028 I am 46 and struggle accepting my age and the fact that I didn't accomplish much. When I look in the mirror, I am shocked. Pretty much all of my life, everybody used to tell me how pretty I was. I would thrive on peoples' compliments. It was a crutch. Now I am really struggling with finding my identity. The older i get, the more insecure I am. I have always hated school and so never furthered my education and so always had jobs that I hate. I have been praying for deliverance for a very long time. Well, that is why I am so depressed most of the time. It's also because my social skills are lacking so I can't make friends easily. I am 46 and struggle accepting my age and the fact that I didn’t accomplish much. When I look in the mirror, I am shocked. Pretty much all of my life, everybody used to tell me how pretty I was. I would thrive on peoples’ compliments. It was a crutch. Now I am really struggling with finding my identity. The older i get, the more insecure I am. I have always hated school and so never furthered my education and so always had jobs that I hate. I have been praying for deliverance for a very long time. Well, that is why I am so depressed most of the time. It’s also because my social skills are lacking so I can’t make friends easily.

]]> By: CR http://www.lorisreflections.com/everyday-things/middle-age-women-are-increasing-the-us-suicide-rate/comment-page-1/#comment-13963 CR Thu, 30 Oct 2008 23:22:08 +0000 http://laurelwreathsreflections.com/?p=2641#comment-13963 Having a personal relationship with GOD is not the only soluton. I was very devoted to relationship with GOD but my heart had harden against the world and evidently I think GOD harden is heart to me. I not only felt I was worthless, had messed my life up, let my husband, kids, parents and all down including God. When you disappoint GOD you really drop low. I attempted Suicide about 3months ago and still have not received a point that I am Thankful to be here and I know better but my brain does not cooperate. I am 45yrs and have a devasting last 4 yrs health, financial, emotional . I always felt I could handle everything and anything and I thought I was doing so, but I was just pretending. I was gradually dropping further and further in depression but I felt it was just my age hormone issue. I think all need to get back to more simply lifes. We need simplicity, fun,familytime, more time fro GOD. Having a personal relationship with GOD is not the only soluton.
I was very devoted to relationship with GOD but my heart had harden against the world and evidently I think GOD harden is heart to me. I not only felt I was worthless, had messed my life up, let my husband, kids, parents and all down including God.
When you disappoint GOD you really drop low. I attempted Suicide about 3months ago and still have not received a point that I am Thankful to be here and I know better but my brain does not cooperate. I am 45yrs and have a devasting last 4 yrs health, financial, emotional . I always felt I could handle everything and anything and I thought I was doing so, but I was just pretending. I was gradually dropping further and further in depression but I felt it was just my age hormone issue. I think all need to get back to more simply lifes. We need simplicity, fun,familytime, more time fro GOD.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.lorisreflections.com/everyday-things/middle-age-women-are-increasing-the-us-suicide-rate/comment-page-1/#comment-13844 Elizabeth Tue, 28 Oct 2008 20:31:01 +0000 http://laurelwreathsreflections.com/?p=2641#comment-13844 Who can say for sure why middle aged women are seeing an increase in suicide rates. Perhaps, the reasons are different for different women. Maybe, this ties in with an earlier study that said that women's overall happiness level has decreased since the 1970's. Women today are presented with the expectation of "having it all" -- including a meaningful career, perpetual health and beauty, children, a perfect home, a man who dotes on your every whim, etc. And, this ideal has come about during a time when many extended families and nuclear families have been spending less time together and communities are not as close as they once were. Thus, women are trying to achieve these unrealistic expectations without the support that women of prior generations had. Not only that, but society now devalues roles that women have traditionally found a lot of meaning in fulfilling. Being a wife, a mother, and keeping a home are no longer looked upon as worthy occupations, yet no matter what else a woman does in life, these are the things that are closest to the heart. Add to that health issues, possible side effects of medications, a high divorce rate, and women are as set up as men used to be to have a mid-life crisis. Of course, as so many posters have pointed out, the real question is do these women have hope in the Lord? It is only in a relationship with Christ that women can find true peace. Having said that, it's easy to speculate about this matter in the abstract. The challenge that I see in this report is that we all need to love and appreciate the women around us. We need to do a lot of listening so that we can respond accordingly; each woman who struggles with depression probably has her own story to tell. Who can say for sure why middle aged women are seeing an increase in suicide rates. Perhaps, the reasons are different for different women. Maybe, this ties in with an earlier study that said that women’s overall happiness level has decreased since the 1970′s. Women today are presented with the expectation of “having it all” — including a meaningful career, perpetual health and beauty, children, a perfect home, a man who dotes on your every whim, etc. And, this ideal has come about during a time when many extended families and nuclear families have been spending less time together and communities are not as close as they once were. Thus, women are trying to achieve these unrealistic expectations without the support that women of prior generations had. Not only that, but society now devalues roles that women have traditionally found a lot of meaning in fulfilling. Being a wife, a mother, and keeping a home are no longer looked upon as worthy occupations, yet no matter what else a woman does in life, these are the things that are closest to the heart.

Add to that health issues, possible side effects of medications, a high divorce rate, and women are as set up as men used to be to have a mid-life crisis.

Of course, as so many posters have pointed out, the real question is do these women have hope in the Lord? It is only in a relationship with Christ that women can find true peace.

Having said that, it’s easy to speculate about this matter in the abstract. The challenge that I see in this report is that we all need to love and appreciate the women around us. We need to do a lot of listening so that we can respond accordingly; each woman who struggles with depression probably has her own story to tell.

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