Comments on: Being Misunderstood http://www.lorisreflections.com/everyday-things/family/misunderstood/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=misunderstood The ramblings from a house where testosterone runs rapid. Wed, 01 Feb 2012 17:41:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Barbara H. http://www.lorisreflections.com/everyday-things/family/misunderstood/comment-page-1/#comment-29060 Barbara H. Tue, 17 Feb 2009 15:29:41 +0000 http://laurelwreathsreflections.com/?p=3500#comment-29060 I think you are right on target, Lori. I have often said the Lord gives different seasons in life -- in some of them we can serve outwardly more, but in other wee need to focus more on the primary ministry God has given us, our husband, children, and home. You just have to be faithful to Him and not worry about what other people think (easier said than done, I know), but perhaps blog posts like this and an occasional word as the Lord lays it on your heart can help correct any misunderstandings. Personally -- I have often seen people serve in various areas and then pull back for a while, and usually I don't think anything of it. I just figured they needed to rest and recharge for a while or had other things going on in their lives. And I've noticed a lot of women seem to go all gung ho serving in the church when they are first married, but then realize they've taken on too much and need to cut back. I think we all realize we serve in various capacities at various times -- no one can do it all all at once. The only thing hat troubles me here is that you said over and over that it was your own perception or fear that you were misunderstood or misjudged. It may be that people aren't thinking what you think they're thinking. :) Sometimes we just have to bear with misunderstandings, as Mary, the mother of Jesus did, but perhaps as you seek the Lord He will open the door to say a word here or there to help others understand not only you but others in a similar boat. <abbr><em><abbr><em>Barbara H.s last blog post..<a href="http://barbarah.wordpress.com/2009/02/17/interests-and-issues/" rel="nofollow">Interests and Issues</a></em></abbr></abbr></em> I think you are right on target, Lori. I have often said the Lord gives different seasons in life — in some of them we can serve outwardly more, but in other wee need to focus more on the primary ministry God has given us, our husband, children, and home. You just have to be faithful to Him and not worry about what other people think (easier said than done, I know), but perhaps blog posts like this and an occasional word as the Lord lays it on your heart can help correct any misunderstandings.

Personally — I have often seen people serve in various areas and then pull back for a while, and usually I don’t think anything of it. I just figured they needed to rest and recharge for a while or had other things going on in their lives. And I’ve noticed a lot of women seem to go all gung ho serving in the church when they are first married, but then realize they’ve taken on too much and need to cut back. I think we all realize we serve in various capacities at various times — no one can do it all all at once.

The only thing hat troubles me here is that you said over and over that it was your own perception or fear that you were misunderstood or misjudged. It may be that people aren’t thinking what you think they’re thinking. :) Sometimes we just have to bear with misunderstandings, as Mary, the mother of Jesus did, but perhaps as you seek the Lord He will open the door to say a word here or there to help others understand not only you but others in a similar boat.

Barbara H.s last blog post..Interests and Issues

]]> By: Vicki http://www.lorisreflections.com/everyday-things/family/misunderstood/comment-page-1/#comment-29059 Vicki Tue, 17 Feb 2009 15:21:18 +0000 http://laurelwreathsreflections.com/?p=3500#comment-29059 Hey Lori - great post. I doubt any of us will get through this life *without* being misunderstood, but that's okay. The One we answer to is the Lord, not everyone else. Thanking God for His grace and growth in your life, and I'm so glad you listened to His nudges concerning your husband. The Holy Spirit is never wrong:-) Sometimes we're too motivated by what others think, rather than what He's prompting us to do...and I'm still learning it's better to abide in Him than to rush ahead to "do." ♥ Hey Lori – great post. I doubt any of us will get through this life *without* being misunderstood, but that’s okay. The One we answer to is the Lord, not everyone else. Thanking God for His grace and growth in your life, and I’m so glad you listened to His nudges concerning your husband. The Holy Spirit is never wrong:-) Sometimes we’re too motivated by what others think, rather than what He’s prompting us to do…and I’m still learning it’s better to abide in Him than to rush ahead to “do.” ♥

]]> By: Laurie http://www.lorisreflections.com/everyday-things/family/misunderstood/comment-page-1/#comment-29048 Laurie Tue, 17 Feb 2009 02:42:06 +0000 http://laurelwreathsreflections.com/?p=3500#comment-29048 After 40 years of marriage, I have learned that God does not give us things to do at the expense of our relationship with our husbands. A lot of guilt is laid on us to do works in the church and if God places it on our hearts, He will do so when our home life is in order. He does not call us away from our homes. We are to be help mates, not outgrowing one another. It is just my feelings, but I learned this the hard way in the first half of my marriage. I love your honesty here. Love and Hugs, Laurie in Ca. After 40 years of marriage, I have learned that God does not give us things to do at the expense of our relationship with our husbands. A lot of guilt is laid on us to do works in the church and if God places it on our hearts, He will do so when our home life is in order. He does not call us away from our homes. We are to be help mates, not outgrowing one another. It is just my feelings, but I learned this the hard way in the first half of my marriage. I love your honesty here.

Love and Hugs, Laurie in Ca.

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